Compilation of short MORNING THOUGHTS.

Previously posted on my Facebook Page. Not updated.

War is the most evil of humanity’s deeds. Eradication of life, destruction of the environment, waste of resources. War prolongs hate, widens divides, and ushers crisis. War is deadly violence and emotional misery. No way to rationalize war other than to dominate for territorial gain, force ownership of resources that belong to another. “Institutionalized” theft and sale of tools of doom. War diminishes us into the worst of what we could ever be.☮️☮️☮️

I haven't seen a lot of friends, in person, for years. Mostly, people post old photos as Facebook profile pic. They look younger, sure. But “younger” doesn’t mean more pleasant to the eyes. In my youth, my crushes were older women: Sophia Loren, Gina Lollobrigida, Elizabeth Taylor, Grace Slick. Yes, I seldom see current photos of friends. I know I look a lot older than 3 years ago. We all look older. Like we have been inside a cave and now just coming out. Sexier. 🤓💋👴

The activism then was fundamental. The right time to advocate a cause: After we successfully gathered different peoples with diverse thoughts in a singular space. We persuaded, we didn’t push. We were convinced, we didn’t cuss out. We created, we didn’t destroy. We listened more than we talked. The antithesis: Preaching to the choir then shaming the other side—these don’t serve activism. These days, activism is “I am correct and you are an idiot!” Egotistical, self-righteous blah. 🗣👤👥

Contradictions are primal in us. Example: Despite my fondness of writing love poems/prose, whether I am dating or not, almost on a daily basis—I am actually a very pragmatic person. I don’t usually dwell in emphatic drama over pro-active solution of any crisis, less talk. Romance as a genre is my least favorite (TV/film) viewing fare though I listen to a lot of silly love songs. When faced with problems, I normally don’t discuss/share them. I just solved it, quietly. 🤨😒😎

I used to review movies (books, music, art) as part of my journalism work. I can be cerebral, smart-ass, harsh. But I also believe/d my opinion/insight on a particular work is merely one of many or the other side of probably the more acceptable review. Just me, writing. These days, I kind of “slow” my intellectual motors and just try to enjoy a movie as entertainment. So I repeat, I didn't like "The Power of the Dog." It was boring, predictable, lifeless. LOL! 🎥📺📽

Reading is a life-long obsession. As a child, my reading madness was served whenever me and grandpa would walk about three miles to/from the open market. I’d read billboards, store signs, bus names, anything along the way. No reading material in the house—magazines, “komiks,” books, newspapers, encyclopedias, handbills, manuals, pamphlets etcetera—would escape me. I simply love written words. In my old age, I still read like I am 7. Greedy to know more. 📚🔗📚

Gasoline: $5. The Ukraine War is the blaming board, sure. It does affect the pricing dance amongst oil gods. But fuel costs were bound to soar pre-Putin shenanigan. “Tight oil inventories as demands soar.” Inflation ensues. The global oil joint is a twisted mess. Nations that own their oil industry contend with high costs as well. China, $5; Mexico, $4; India, $5; Norway, $6+. But dig this: In Russia, $2. In most oil-rich Middle East countries? Below a dollar.

       Per China, it is always a puzzle. But eventually, shrewd. China is world’s #1 oil importer but it is already #6 top oil producers. Beijing though doesn’t really sell its oil (#49 in exports). And before this crisis, it struck a $400 billion oil deal with Iran (in March last year) and early this year, another $120+ billion oil agreement with Russia. Yet it is selling its oil to its people at $5+/gallon. Dig? You gotta feel the next move… 

      Selling low oil/gas to your people doesn’t really fix inflation per se or eventually help them. Complex, complex. At the time that Venezuela’s economy sank big time, Caracas was selling oil, homebased, at almost a giveaway below a dollar. These days, $2.27. You know how much they sell gasoline in Nigeria? A dollar or less. ⛽️🤮⛽️

The $4 high on gasoline isn’t due to Russia’s invasion of Ukraine. Before President Biden announced a ban on oil imports from Moscow (today), or before this tempest, gasoline prices were already rising at 7.5 percent inflation. Anyhow, only 3.5 percent of U.S. oil imports come from Russia. Fact: U.S. oil imports fell 62 percent from 2008 while exports soared 3,000 percent. BTW, the U.S. is #1 in oil production and oil exports. Not about Russia. It is about oil giants’ profit, per se.

     Biden’s announcement of “ban” on Moscow’s oil imports as retaliation to Russia’s continued annihilation of Ukraine didn’t specify if this is part of a U.S.-led sanction. Before today, the sanction didn’t include Russian oil and natural gas. Imports from Russia were still ongoing at that time. But mostly machinery and technologies that are related to Nord Stream 2 gas pipeline. The focal trajectory of the sanction is suspension of NS2. Meantime, oil imports from Russia declined in 2021 from a decade ago by 45 percent. Main sources of U.S. oil supply come from next-door neighbors Canada (about 60 percent) and Mexico. ⛽️🚧⛽️

“Bad news is good news.” That has always been the paradox of journalism. But since the media turned online or electronic, that phrase has taken a much more literal context. And worse. These days, it’d seem like any news that exudes optimism, positivity, and confidence—isn’t cool. Seldom people pick `em up for sharing on social media. So news that is dark, negative, and openly foretelling doom—is The News. Spike in Zoloft sales is unofficially credited to the media.

       And we shouldn’t forget that Bush W took the New York Times and Washington Post’s unsubstantiated reportage on Iraq’s Weapons of Mass Destruction—as a buffer to invade the country in 2003. Jonathan Landay and Warren Strobel of the lesser known newspaper company Knight Ridder exposed both “respected” papers’ false reportage. ?✍️🖥

Oh I wish I had more comments to my posts. Why not? But on second thought, nope. As a primal gesture, I respond to all responses to my posts on my page. Instinctive respect. So if I respond to multiple responses to a singular post, and most of them are rude? Damn! How much time and energy would I spend on a singular day’s activity? Yet I know people read me. Five or 6, no problem. I write because writing is my life. Just like the good ole days before there was Social Media. ✍️👥

About Dogs and Cats and their Buddies. And some little jokes.

Previously posted on my Facebook Page.

THE dog’s desire to destroy is instinctive. High prey drive. Natural reflex. Boredom, as well. Arrow is a hound dog, born to hunt. She gets bored and used to eat furniture in the house. So when Elle Cyd was still here, she taught Arrow to dissect a stuffed toy like a surgeon schooled at Johns Hopkins School of Medicine. A trick to stop Arrow from her chair-eating shenanigan. It worked. Now Arrow is a bonafide surgeon, with a huge collection of stuffed toys without eyes and entrails. 🐕🧸🐕

THUMB, verb, to scan (written matter) by turning over pages with or as if with the thumb. Or to disarrange, soil, or wear by careless or frequent handling. Or to solicit (a ride) from a passing vehicle by signaling with the thumb. So what if you don’t have a thumb? I don’t know. I gotta keep on googling, anyhow. 👍🖕👎

WHY do flocks of birds fly in alignment or V-formation? Google: The leading bird works the hardest. Duty of that boss bird to reduce air resistance so that the other birds can have an easier time flying. Google adds: Murmuration is a visual invitation to attract birds, as many as 750,000 birds, to join a group flight. Murmuration, get that? But Google hasn’t really answered my question. I gotta ask Fizz The Wiz. She always gives me the correct answer. She watches bird videos 24/7. 🐦🦅🦜

CATS are territorial animals. They fight to defend their territory. No sane animal should encroach on cat land. Elle Cyd was an inside/outside cat. She almost never had a fight. There was one only incident when she had a skirmish with a neighbor’s cat. But as soon as Georgia heard it, dog sis ran to defend Cyd. Nemesis ran away. Ching and Fizz are indoor cats. No problemo, whatsoever. The sun room is their favorite and my room, with Arrow, they already sequestered it as their own. 😼🙀😾

THE restaurant host or hostess makes sure that their guests feel welcomed, cared for, and valued. They create a warm and welcoming environment for patrons from the moment they enter the establishment. Hosts or Hostesses typically provide menus, take names for reservations and answer the phone. They aren't supposed to ask guests about their political party, you know. Even with a nice smile. ☺️🙃😊

CATS enjoy watching television so much that many content creators make videos (and even games!) especially for felines. If you're looking for cat-friendly content, YouTube has a treasure trove of content felines will love. Yup, I did that. Fizz and Ching have two laptops/screens on their bed space. Ching watches more than Fizz. Fizz: “It gets boring, you know. There’s no story structure, no plotlines. I’d rather read Pasckie’s books in Arrow’s bedroom.” 🐈📺🐈‍⬛

BELIEVE it or not, with a lot of time and practice, you can actually train your dog to read, says experts (who are mostly cats). But you better hold off before buying a copy of "Call of the Wild" or "Balto.” There is a difference between learning to recognize words and being able to comprehend text. There's more to learn about your dog's ability to read. Okay? But don’t lose sleep over this. For the meantime, take it easy. Live your life, eat and chill. 🐕📚🐕‍🦺

ORIGINALLY in Italy, pizza was sold as smaller whole pies. It's hard to say who had the genius idea of cutting it into slices. One story explains how pizza sellers in New York would walk up and down the street and order just a slice. Then pizza restaurants got greedy. They forced people to buy all 12 slices in one box. I reckon? Some even ask, “Want fries with those?” 🍕🍕🍕

COMMUNICATION is common between animals of a single species, but it can also happen between two animals of different species. Animals communicate using signals, which can include visual, auditory, or sound-based; chemical, involving pheromones; or tactile, touch-based, cues. Or recently they use iPhone to communicate via zoom, IMs or texts. Cats taught many animals how to adapt to changing times. And how to prepare as well for the coming AI apocalypse. 🐗🐼🐱

WHY are cats so cool? Cats offer companionship, unconditional love, entertainment, affection, lots of purring, comfortable silences and they're trainable! I mean, you are trainable to them. They like training hoomans how to be sophisticated, smart, and of course, cool. Among other shinobi ninja thingies such as Zen-like calm, weapon-savvy, stealth and camouflage, unorthodoxy, agility, mindfulness, and preparedness for the AI apocalypse. 😺😸😼

About Dogs and Cats and their Buddies. And some little jokes.

Previously posted on my Facebook Page.

CATS lack the cognitive skills to interpret human language, but they recognize when you talk to them. To put it another way, cats comprehend human language in the same way that we understand meowing. Meanwhile, in case you see your cat reading Leo Tolstoy’s “War and Peace” and watching a bird video on YouTube with captions, like Fizz The Wiz here, that’d mean there are still many wonders that expert hoomans haven’t “studied” yet about cats. 🐱📖🐱

PANHANDLING is more often referred to as begging. Panhandlers are often assumed as homeless or extremely poor. Panhandlers in Asheville have increased in recent years. Not that Asheville is an impoverished city with no available jobs. Local chain Ingles is hiring all the time. I notice panhandlers who look healthier than I am, wearing new pairs of shoes, with a huge dog that refuses a Bojangles chicken leg. The panhandler/dog owner demands “organic, grass-fed 5 dollars.” 🧙🫴🧙‍♂️

CAT hunting is more about fun and entertainment. The mere sight and sound of prey triggers your cat's hunting instinct which is hardwired into their brains. Quite simply, your cat is powerless to resist the flapping wings of a bird or the scuttling feet of a small mouse. Ching though who watches a lot of bird videos on YouTube is learning a lot about those flapping wings or how birds are. She told me that she wants to date a bird one day soon. 🐱🐦🐱

TIME MANAGEMENT, the ability to use one's time effectively or productively, especially at work. My life’s time management  these days pretty much revolves around Arrow The Good Doog, Ching The Zing, and Fizz The Wiz. All the rest are mostly streaming TV, basketball TV, and Facebook. Uh huh. ⏰⏳⏱

WHY do cats break stuff? It's fun. Curiosity The Cat. They love to explore everything around them and find certain aspects of play entertaining to them. One of the biggest components of quality of life is pleasure, and cats receive untold rewards by knocking things over. Also, they want to know if those vases and glasses are made in China or made in Texas in factories owned by China and employ workers who look like Chinese from Mexico. (Did I satisfy your anti China fix now?) 🐈🏺🐈

THEORIES suggest that cats may be able to instinctively choose the right direction if finding themselves in a new place. Cats may be among a very select few animals that are able to sense the Earth's magnetic fields. The presence of iron in their inner ears and skin may also act as a natural compass. That is why Koofus The Koolcat invented the prototype to GPS or global positioning system a.k.a. Navstar GPS although Fizz told me cats don’t have anything to do with Mapquest or Google Maps. 🐈🛞🐈

WHAT happens when you lose your cellphone? Activate the “Find my device” feature right away so that you can locate and erase your phone if it gets lost or stolen. Lock your SIM card with a PIN so that thieves can't use it with another phone. Or ask your cat where she hid it. 📲👉😺

WHY do cats knock things off? Cats are natural born hunters, and their prey instinct is a big contributor to this behavior. Example: If that paperweight sitting on your desk was a mouse, your cat needs to investigate it. She needs to bat it around to make sure it's not a tiny ET. That’s good, if your cat studies the object first before, and not after, knocking it off the counter. Which is Fizz. If she finds a silly thingy in my room, like a Chucky doll, she’d knock it off, pronto. She already did. 🐱🏹🐱

WHY are pet cats so mischievous? Because they are fed and do not have to hunt their food to survive so they have a lot of unused energy. Their predatory drive urges them to seek out and chase anything that moves. Fizz The Wiz is different. She channels her energies, intellectually than physically. Fizz analyzes what Arrow finds in the yard like DNA traces of possible interpolators and what Ching recorded via her CCTV eyes. So when it comes to hacking computers? That’d be Fizz. 😺😹😼

POWER of OBSERVATION, the ability to notice and pay close attention to things. Example: “The dog's excellent powers of observation are evident in his book's detailed descriptions. It’s a good thing that his editor is a cat.” 🤔😕🤔

HOW IT WAS.

Compiled from my previous Facebook posts. 

Telegram, a written or printed telegraph message that is directly delivered to the recipient by a messenger. The young today are familiar with the cloud-based, encrypted instant messaging service, also called Telegram. Telegram services still operate in much of the world although e-mails and text’ing have rendered telegrams obsolete. Then, when a telegram arrived, we knew the info was extreme. Death in the family or birth of a grandchild. 📭📨📬

Favorite TV fun. “Tarzan.” A child raised in the African jungle by the Mangani great apes. He later experienced civilization, only to reject it and return to the wild. The character was created by Edgar Rice Burroughs in 1912. Johnny Weissmuller and Ron Ely were the Tarzan dudes when I was a boy. Remember as well Tarzan's girlfriend Jane and chimp buddy Cheeta. Famous yells then: Tarzan’s elongated ululate and Bruce Lee’s catty shriek. I can do both. 🦍📺🦧

Gabardine, polyester, and corduroy pants. Hot pants? Those were the “classy” fabric for pants or jackets in my youth. Party get-ups, especially for discotheque frolic. Status symbol of some sort. These pants come with the fine, shiny shirt that is half-buttoned to reveal a macho “hairy” chest though not many Filipino dudes possess such body hairs, LOL! Remember John Travolta’s Tony Manero outfit in 1977’s “Saturday Night Fever,” uh huh? 👖🎼👖

Barter. Primitive wisdom of community engagement. Not only things are exchanged; we also traded service for similar favors. Back home in a mining town where my family lived, villagers helped in a farm and so they got free veggies and meat. In West Asheville, years ago, I rendered work in a friend’s building; he gave me old furniture. Ads from local restaurants to The Indie (newspaper) for food for volunteers in our “Bonfires for Peace” concerts. ☮️😎☯️

Summer basketball. Fun episode of my summertimes then. Me and my brothers used to play in those contests in our suburban village back home. My brothers also organized events. As a city government employee, Sonny put up “inter-barangay anti-drugs” competitions. Alvaro initiated basketball clinics in poorer towns in Baguio City, our second home-city. Those days, of course, were before cellphones captured the youth’s fancy. ⛹️‍♀️🌤⛹️

Snail mail. Of course, we still get “snail mails” from the Post Office. But mostly bills, junk stuff, and commercial pamphlets. Some maintain subscriptions to local newspapers but not for news. For coupons. The cellphone and house computer or laptop/tablet rule our life now. I don’t think many still write long emails, anyhow. Texting and IMs suffice. Same with news. Not many even read actual news over Social Media banter about the news. Ah life! 📫📭📬

Words. Courtesy and civility were common sense. These days, words are either incorrect or inappropriate per cancel-culture politics. Words like beautiful, blacklist, and pet are not good. But we may cuss, curse, and slander anyone with words that are obviously offensive yet the Immaculate Academics would not complain. Then, “Thank you, Madam!” or “Merry Christmas!” were words of respect, regardless of your religion and culture? Now? Nope. 🗣👤👀

Home delivered milk. Remember? Mostly, during my childhood in a small mining village, milk came with goat cheese, fresh vegetables, eggs, and coconut bread. All home-made or community farmed and raised. It was part of my house chores to wait for Mang (or Sir) Lucio to deliver three gallons of milk etcetera each Sunday morning and then wash up and neatly place the bottles on the front door for the delivery round next Sunday. 🍶🚍🍶

Carpooling, an arrangement among a group of automobile owners by which each owner in turn drives the others or their children to and from a designated place. I am sure this community initiative tradition is still alive, especially in rural areas. But with the advent of commercial rides Uber, Lyft etcetera, carpooling has significantly lost popularity. Carpooling also allows time for neighbors to interact more, just like the good old days. Going or gone. 🚔👨‍👩‍👧🚖

Undergarments in women. Such as the “kamison” or chemise. Not saying that I disapprove that women don’t wear them anymore. Comfort, ease–all good. Just observing. These days, you can almost see within. Very transparent fashion. Suggestive. Thongs. Leggings that loudly announce shapes. No more mysteries. Some women wear chemise as swimwear, actually. Do I sound like an 18th century puritan? LOL! My observation, that’s all. 🩱👙🩱

Photo credits: Reddit. RunningSuplado. Illusions Lingerie.

RECOMMENDED: Non-fiction Books. Alvin Toffler's “Future Shock” Trilogy.

[ ] Alvin Toffler's “Future Shock” Trilogy I: “Future Shock,” 1970. I was 15 years old when I first read this enthralling albeit jarring book by Alvin Toffler with help from spouse Adelaide Farrell. They define the term "future shock" as a certain psychological state of individuals and entire societies, or a perception of "too much change in too short a period of time." 

       As a mid-teen weaned on sci fi in the mold of “Soylent Green,” “Time Tunnel,” “Planet of the Apes,” and Erich von Däniken’s “Chariots of the Gods?” I was more intrigued than shocked/surprised by what I read of Toffler’s fantastic thesis although those were supposedly future variables. Science fiction? 

       I must admit though that a lot of his research made sense, even at a time when computers were superfluous whims, especially his insight on the evolution of socioeconomics. And so when the next two related books “The Third Wave” (1980) and “Powershift: Knowledge, Wealth and Violence at the Edge of the 21st Century” (1990) came out, I had to declare that I was a bonafide Alvin Toffler madman. LOL!

       Beyond the fantastical readings of future tech, Toffler’s thoughts on Asia’s emerging markets in the 1980s and 1990s were global integrals. Asian leaderships by Zhao Ziyang, Lee Kuan Yew and Kim Dae Jung admitted to voraciously taken heed of Toffler’s lengthy discourse.

       “Future Shock” is replete with historical antecedents that offer credence to geopolitical upheavals in the `80s/`90s. More so, Toffler pushed us to think/rethink his tarot cards as he sees tomorrow, not as a psychic but as sociologist. Not “smart” guesswork but almost a mathematical calculation or scientific conclusion/finding of our existence in the future. 

       Fast forward to 2020s. How am I supposed to dispute Toffler’s “future” now? No way. But this line bites: “The illiterate of the 21st century will not be those who cannot read and write, but those who cannot learn, unlearn and relearn.” 📚✍️📚

[ ] Alvin Toffler's “Future Shock” Trilogy II: “The Third Wave,” 1980. Let’s break down Mr Toffler’s rereading of past, present, future. “First Wave” is the settled agricultural society which prevailed in much of the world after the Neolithic Revolution, which replaced hunter-gatherer cultures. “Second Wave” is Industrial Age society. It began in Western Europe with the Industrial Revolution, and subsequently spread across the world. Key aspects of Second Wave society are the nuclear family, a factory-type education system and the corporation. 

       “Third Wave” is the post-industrial society. Toffler says in the late 1950s, most countries have been transitioning from a Second Wave society into a Third Wave society albeit largely unnoticed. He coined many words to describe it and mentions names invented by others, such as the Information Age.

       For additional readings. Google James Gleick’s “Chaos: Making a New Science” (1987) and “The Information: A History, a Theory, a Flood” (2011). Gleick was the first to coin the term “information age.” Although you may want to go all the way to Claude Shannon, circa 1916 A.D., the father of the information age. That’s the kick of reading Toffler. You are coaxed to dig up and read other could-be related books. 📚✍️📚

[ ] Alvin Toffler's “Future Shock” Trilogy III: “Powershift: Knowledge, Wealth and Violence at the Edge of the 21st Century,” 1990. In “The Third Wave,” Toffler discussed all mass movement continuum expanding in “The Second Wave.” Mass production, mass distribution, mass consumption, mass education, mass media, mass recreation, mass entertainment, and weapons of mass destruction. He adds: “You combine those things with standardization, centralization, concentration, and synchronization, and you wind up with a style of organization we call bureaucracy." 

       Pretty much, we are led easily to the third phase of industrial/technological evolution, and a redefinition of Power. Toffler died in 2016 but, I reckon, he already saw the transitioning of power in a knowledge-based civilization where the workforce hands lose traction in favor of the machine or AI. 

       He elaborates that wealth is another form of power, and is flexible in nature, since it can be used as punishment (like a stick) or reward (as a carrot). And so on and so forth. I am rereading all three books and, I tell you, each reading requires flexibility of understanding. I don’t feel though that I am able to fully get the whole picture of the Tofflerian Crystal Ball. You just have to read them. Again and again. 

       Other Alvin Toffler books that are worth couch time: “War and Anti-War” (1993); “Creating a New Civilization” (1995); and “Revolutionary Wealth” (2006). 📚✍️📚

RECOMMENDED. “Never Mind the Bollocks, Here's the Sex Pistols.”

Music/vinyl. “Never Mind the Bollocks, Here's the Sex Pistols.” Released 1977, the only studio album by English punk rock band the Sex Pistols. The album has influenced many bands and musicians to go extreme on no-limits defiance, juvenile crassness, and badness fun. As expected, the industry in general lapped it up. Basically sell that celebratory mischief. Definitive, game-changing, revolutionary. And consumer market gold. 

       Johnny Rotten is the understatement of his assumed last name. Sid Vicious basically rewrote rock `n roll burnout. Plus Steve Jones, Paul, and original bassist Glen Matlock, these guys didn’t know how to play music but that wasn’t their agenda, either. Or it seems. From that point, we point at manager Malcolm McLaren, could be the prototype of “influencing” or “rebranding” that went all-out in 21st century to date. 

       Due in most part to its notoriety, and in spite of many sales bans at major retailers, the album debuted at #1 on the UK Album Charts. In 1987, Rolling Stone magazine named the album the second best of the previous 20 years, behind only the Beatles' “Sgt. Pepper's Lonely Hearts Club Band.” Can you dig that? Just to own the vinyl version of this record could probably win you a date, LOL! 

       For additional fun, check out Hulu’s “Pistol.” Anson Boon “out-rotten” Johnny Rotten himself! And 1986’s “Sid and Nancy.” Could be Gary Oldman’s best performance, I think. 🎼🎹🎼

Old Talk: Relationships and Marriage. And Stuff.

Previously posted on my Facebook page. Or written years ago, unedited/not updated.

RELATIONSHIPS, old and new. 

       Through the years, my flailing romantic bravado, I must admit, has been considerably supplanted by sharp pragmatism. It's a good thing though. I can see more reason or smart-sense now than what it was in my youth (so I thought, hmmm...) In our younger years, love was an ice cream confection under a full moon, dreamy. In our older years, oh well.

       Many times these days, I come across lovers with a sweet litany of “I found my soulmate at last!” or “We are engaged, I can't believe it!” Then after a few months (or weeks), I hear “What a sick jerk, schizophrenic!” or “I'd rather be with my cat, relationships with humans suck!” But of course, I know of a number of friends who've gone past the irksome hawing, heaving and hassles and actually live/d together happily and hopefully, ever after. Let me talk about those who weren't so good at crossing the initial barrier—a month, 6 weeks, or maybe 1 or 2 years (of dating). 

       I believe sometimes we over-idealize love in the context of relationship than actually “realizing” it as a hit-and-miss/do-it-again interface of rampaging hormones, sensibilities and sensitivities. A relationship (or even a friendship) is not an over-the-counter commodity or Apple app that is ready-to-go, one click we are done. It is always a working project... Sure, at first we tend to get enamored by paralleled wavelengths—like a sweet commonality of culinary faves like a shared dinner of purple hummus on one plate, or synchronized footwork on late-70s disco psychedelia, or the same agreeable liking for Ray Reddington's good-bad persona. But these are mere icings, facades, largely superficial hooks—likes and dislikes that are mostly dating-site fodder. 💖👫💖

       

A COMMON fault of lovers on “honeymoon” phase is the “unrealistic” belief that one can be him/herself on the get go just “because he/she wasn't allowed or had the freedom to be that person” in the past relationhip/s. That is expected of lovers, of course. But we need to be real here. No matter how two people enjoy the bliss of a sexual tryst on the first few months or maybe you two are one in looking at Obamacare, religious “fascism” or GMO-issues, still—those are the surface of it all. Compromise and negotiation get in confused fray—as two people try to sustain a relationship and stay longer together. 

       Presence is important. But presence reveals flaws and faults, imperfections and irritations that shake and rattle a relationship. In case you are used to a 2-day or 7-hour alone time when single, excise total control of the TV remote while living with an obedient dog only, or used to hangin' out with the boys (or girls) on Friday night till 3 AM—there should be a level, a good level, of give-and-take and surrender/acceptance situation here. Are you willing to give those up, your so-called “individuality,” at least—as compromises are put on the table?

       Would you allow him/her to rearrange whoever's house (both decide to live in) to suit a partnership than, “This is my room, that is yours” or “I am OCD, I can find my little receipts in a rubble of books and McDonald's cups” or “I like the yard like that, like Naked and Afraid location shoot.” Or “I am spontaneous and loose” as against “You are regimented and uptight.” Or “You are controlling me” or “I am not going to be manipulated.” Why not find a way to figure out the sheer pleasures and easy convenience of whatever/wherever individual madness or personal truths you want to pursue? Remember, there are two people here, not one—and no two people are the same, even twins collide. But whatever we enjoy and relish alone may not work anymore, or had to be adjusted, when put upfront.

       And how do we resolve all these? Simple (although lovers tend to “blind” themselves). If a relationship doesn't make a person a better individual and only ruins her or dumps you in stagnation, quit. That'd be the time to give it all up. Life can be an uncomplicated equation, if you want it that way. So don't complicate it. If you can't co-exist with another set of exploding chakras and unaligned “madnesses.” just let go and move on. Be happy than confused.        

       Maybe a koolcat beside you in front of “Game of Thrones” is better. You reckon? 💖👫💖